Your twenties are a time for exploration, fun, and quitting when you don’t like the job, relationship, or city that you are in.  It can be intoxicating to float from  thing to thing, not tied down, reveling in your freedom.  But there is also a price to not committing–it’s hard to make progress when you never stay, and keep starting over.


This past year has been a big year of commitment for me.   I started a new, big job.  My husband and I bought a house.   We have some new pets.  In the middle of the night  I would sometimes wake up and think about all the ways in which I was now tied down–more so than every before.  All of these big responsibilities weighed on me.  But the reality is I’m also making  much more progress, much more rapidly in my career and my life than I have in years.   The two are very much connected.

Sometimes, you just need to commit: when you want to make progress, and even when you are first starting out and you don’t know what you want.  We ruminate and think the answer is thinking things through, or knowing ourselves better, or therapy. These things are all good, but in excess they can hold us back from actually moving forward. Sometimes you just need to commit to something and see where it takes you.  You’ll never get anywhere if you don’t get going.